Why is he talking to me?

Source: "The Social Guidebook to Sweden"

I was in Brussels

I was sitting on La Grande Place

A beautiful square in the centre of town

Suddenly a man came to sit next to me

And started talking to me

I turned to him and answered

And I then turned back and asked myself

"Why is he talking to me?


Suddenly I realized

"Julien, you are becoming Swedish"

I turned back to the man and said

"Sorry, I live in a country where people to not speak to each other."

The man looked at me with a mix of surprise and astonishment

I had to explain

"In Sweden, people socialize much more within organised activities, you kind of need a reason to speak with others."

This whole situation was surprising in a way 

I come from the French speaking part of Canada

Where such un-frame communication is usual and normal

But for the last six years of my life I lived in the north of Europe

In a remote place called Scandianvia

And it has changed my expectations

I wrote a book about it

It provides tools for Swedes to understand better how their own behaviours may be perceived

And for foreigners to understand better Swedes' behaviours and reactions


Source: "The Social Guidebook to Sweden"

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